I know most of you must have cracked this equation. I am still at it. I am still taking baby steps towards being the perfect parent. Well is there a state called the perfect Parent? Obviously not, we always have only one set of parents and there can't be comparisons. But I guess each of us end up comparing our parents with our friends. And there will always be cases where one goes up or comes down in esteem. I may have done it and I have seen my daughter doing it on me, whether she knows the effects or not.
The other day I saw a very young girl walking down with even petite baby on hand. The first thought that struck was, is that baby hers? Then I rationalized that it obviously must be. What followed my thought process next were, is that young girl really matured enough to bring up a child? Forget about material and monetary aspect, is she physically and mental equipped for the role?
Bang came the next thought, was I really ready when I had my first child? Does one really undergo some kind of training to bring up their children? Do our parents really teach us how too. I really don't think so. We just do things by instinct some by observation, some by experience So when this was how things are, how did I even doubt that that young girl may not be able to take care of the baby, if it was hers.
Life is a great teacher, every moment teaches us something. And our children are even more greater teachers. They teach us patience, with their tantrums and mischief's, makes us realize how we must have troubled our parents. That makes our parents grow even more fonder. When we think we know all, they spring something new to make us realize that there is still a whole lot to learn!
If there ever was a something to teach you how to crack being the perfect parent, I would want to learn. Till then let me continue to be this imperfect parent, still trying to learn to give my best shot!
Anonymous says
Excellent Article..!!!!!!
As a mother of 3 year old son I totally agree with yo
meeso says
I was just short of 18 when I had my daughter, and obviously, had no idea what I was doing... and although my mom hadn't taught me how to parent, she was always a good mom, and became my role model as a parent, and that helped immensely! Having a child young presents It's own set of challenges, but the love and concern for your child is still there... and I think there are a lot of good young parents 🙂
Pooja says
Wonderful article Srivalli...I agree with you..Sometimes we learn more from our kids...We bring up our kids with love and try to bring them as good human beings isn't that enough to be good parents?
I wonder sometimes being a mother of 3 and working woman how do you manage these wonderful blogs?Thats a great job..
shaista says
So true...motherhood is a natural instinct, a gift from God to all mothers irrespective of what their age is...